Decades ago, I was working at a service counter when a customer glanced down at what I had written, whips her head up and says, “you don’t like being told what to do!” I was young then and responded with an uncomfortable giggle, followed by a quiet whisper of “how did you know?” Turns out, she was in the business of handwriting analysis and she was spot on.
Fast forward to today. We are all being told what to do – stay home, stay away—mind you, for a very good reason and I’m wholeheartedly adhering, but still…inside I’ve felt a niggling nudge of – “don’t tell me what to do!” I’m having moments of wanting to throw a little kid fit – I don’t want this, I don’t want hard, I don’t want a recession, I don’t want friends sick. I want to go back to normal! Stomp! Stomp! Stomp!
Worldwide, we are in the space between what was, and what will be. The void, the unknown, the uncertainty, but as a my friend Barbara Huson, author of Sacred Success, says “there is value in the void!”
My business was born in the space between. By slowing down. By giving up the “push”. By sitting with my agitation. By accomplishing less. By learning to let go over and over and over and by learning to redefine everything as I previously knew it…an idea grew and so did my capacity for resilience.
Carl Jung said, “What we resist, persists“. So true!
With this thought in mind, I’ve created a “light-learning” mini group course: From Resistance to Resilience | Shifting Uncertainty into Opportunity [$25.00 for ALL Six 30-Minute Sessions]
Resistance persists when we deny emotions that need to be expressed. Instead – acknowledge what you’re feeling. Write down what you’re feeling loss around. Stomp it out. Move emotion through. Repeat as needed.
A YEAR FROM NOW….
How well did you move your emotions through? How well did you loosen your grip? How well did you let go? How well did you face, what you didn’t want to face? How well did you allow change to unfold? How well did you shift uncertainty into opportunity? How well did you move from resistance to resilience?
Please consider joining me for this mini course beginning Monday, April 6th. I’ll share thoughts, methods and ideas (Just enough to easily grasp and use) to shift out of resistance, fostering new ways of thinking to effectively move forward with your well-being and spirit intact.
We’re in this together. Let grow together too!
Click here to learn more and to register. Hope to ‘see’ you next Monday!
How are you? I mean really…How. Are. You?
Are you breathing? Where is fear living within you…and why? Where is calm living within you…and why? What’s frustrating, infuriating, confusing, worrisome? What gives you hope?
This is an extraordinarily unsettling time for so many. Livelihood is at stake. Business owners are in shock. Breadwinners are told to go home. There is no normal. There is no reference point – on a world scale, we have never been in this position before.
Acknowledge what you’re feeling without embodying your feeling. Instead of saying “I’m so worried” try “worry is present.” By removing “I” and acknowledging the presence of what you’re feeling, such as – “anger has shown up,” it’s easier to feel in without becoming your emotion.
In the last few weeks, our world has landed with a resounding thud in VUCA!
VUCA is a concept that originated with students at the U.S. Army War College to describe the Volatility, Uncertainty, Complexity, and Ambiguity of the world after the Cold War.
Basically VUCA is a catchall term for “Yeesh – what a mess!”
When the going gets tough, the business world uses this acronym for strategic planning. I feel that individuals would benefit from strategic well-being planning as well.
How do we VUCA proof ourselves?
During the recession, I owned a nutrition and wellness center. It was a deeply VUCA time. Sales (and moods) went with the stock market or whatever fear the media was spreading. Anxiety, digestion issues, sleeplessness and depression became the common ailments that impacted close to 100% of our customers (including the store owner). read more…
Did you know that confusion is most often the precursor to clarity? This means there’s good coming around the corner! Confusion is described as a state of being bewildered or unclear in one’s mind about something – clarity is the opposite of confusion and we all want clarity, right?!
You may be confused about what to wear, or where to go on vacation or what to make for dinner, but for this article, I’m talking about the kind of confusion that is paralyzing. Your mind fogs over. Your ability to see clearly takes a hard right, then left, then hits the breaks, then stumbles forward and likely moves into warp speed going in a zillion different directions to avoid one thing – your confusion.
Meanwhile, self-doubt is having a heyday with you.
Do you agree that our culturally perpetuated drive to achieve and accomplish, often lands women squarely in their head space…over-thinking, over-analyzing, over-worrying, over-pleasing and over-busy?
Well then, allow me to introduce the concept of ‘flourishment’.
I love this non-word. I even use it front and center on my website: “I help women like you, who desire to make a positive impact, get out of your own way by identifying the behaviors and hidden beliefs (yes, we all have them) that are blocking your path to ‘flourishment’.
The word flourishment [Nourish + Flourish = Flourishment] came to me in a roundabout way…via what I call “thought pops,” – ideas that come from nowhere. Although recently someone, with a twinkle in her eye, said “Suzy, they come from somewhere.” Truthfully, we all get them. But so often, because our culture supports a life guided by a well-tuned mind (aka, busy mind), as opposed to a tuned-in soul, these thoughts from “somewhere” are often missed and land nowhere.