Why is it that you don’t let it all hang out; scream from a mountain top your truth or be who you really are?
Is it because you fear being judged? Is it because you don’t want people talking about you? Is it because if you share who we really are that an image you worked so hard for might be blown?
Remember when Clinton made this statement, “I experimented with marijuana a time or two, and I didn’t like it. I didn’t inhale and never tried it again…”
Honestly, would we have thought less of him if he had simply said, “sure, I smoked pot”. The truth – some would have, some wouldn’t have, and that is just the way it rolls.
I was talking with a young woman whose career has taken her deep into the world of politics. She told me how some of her friends, who have designs on becoming senators have already begun posturing for this position which includes watching every word they say, who they are connected with and building alliances with all the “right” people. Really!? And why is it that we don’t trust politicians?
This world we live in does not honor truth and being ourselves. But take just a second and imagine, if everyone spoke their truth and honored who they were, what a different world we would live in.
When I was forty, due to a gut wrenching, traumatic, life changing experience I was suddenly faced with the deepest fear I have ever felt of being judged by others. The fear was so nerve wracking that for weeks I went out in public only when necessary – until I made an agreement with myself to hold my head high; walk tall, speak my truth, because I know the type of person I am and I know who I am and that is all that matters!
As the weeks passed and as I nudged my head up and put myself back into social situations, I began to learn that the very people I feared would judge me, instead respected me. Had I tried to spin a story to cover up the circumstances, I would have become just another “politician” attempting to save face. Instead, by adopting the belief that all that really matters is what I think of myself, the fear I felt dissipated and was replaced with confidence.
Where are you not speaking your truth? And how does that make you feel? Give it a try – baby steps are good. Hold your head high and remember, what matters most isn’t what others think of you – it’s what YOU think no of you! xo