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Hold On To Your Hats!

Hold On To Your Hats!

My site is undergoing a makeover and transforming before your eyes! Has being busy lost its charm? You are in the right place! Coming soon - a new course and coaching program that will guide you in the passage from over-doing, overwhelm and busyness to a way of living that embodies mindfulness, intention, passion, spaciousness, joy and peace. Do Less & Live More!

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The Sustain-Ability of Self

The Sustain-Ability of Self

Last night at a business symposium, hosted by the Port Townsend Co-Lab I had the opportunity to talk about one of my favorite subjects – the sustain-ability of self.  The theme for the evening was collaboration and innovation. I wrote my presentation to reflect the theme, but whether you are a business owner, or busy person perhaps some of the words I spoke will strike a chord with you and even better, light a spark for change! Sharing last night’s presentation verbatim. --------------------------------------------- I am convinced that to have the energy & health to affect lasting change in our lives and in this world, we must first and foremost make the sustainability of ourselves our number one priority. The website: sustainability.com describes sustainability this way: “Among the many ways that sustainability has been defined, the simplest and most fundamental is: “the ability to sustain” or, put another way, “the capacity to endure.” Endure means to, suffer, tolerate, to put up with something - to sustain without flinching or breaking. So many people are nearing their breaking point. We cannot sustain collaboration and innovation without taking care of ourselves first. We can’t sustain anything without taking care of ourselves first! We have created a cultural norm of over-doing and over-extending that has led to the baseline daily feeling of being over-whelmed and anxious. This way of ‘being’ is no different than how large companies operate they go fast, they go big, they push their employee’s and they deplete natural resources...

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Want More Energy? Think About This…

Want More Energy? Think About This…

A phone call from a friend excitedly sharing “so many good things happening”. Another friend who starts every day very early with exercise and then works very long hours. A comment to me saying “you are less exuberant, which there is nothing wrong with exuberance, but you seem so grounded and relaxed now” and I realized I’ve learned a few things this past year. Good things are fabulous. Exercise is a great thing. But I was using both as a way to sustain a level of stimulation that kept me going. I have learned that adrenaline (from caffeine & winding myself up), endorphins (from exercising), that buzz (from creating a whirl wind of energy around myself) led to habits and beliefs of what living life fully “should” feel like. This past sabbatical year I have blown into a million pieces my belief that happiness was feeling excited; that success meant life was full, that going and doing was feeling alive, that being healthy meant vigorous exercise and that happy meant feeling exuberant and motivated every single day. With 30 days left of my “official sabbatical” year I have finally redefined what energy means to me. It no longer means sliding through the door at the end of my day exhausted from being pumped and excited from all that I had accomplished.  It no longer means amping up on caffeine to retain my adrenaline high. It no longer means I can accomplish or do anywhere near what I used to do in a single day without the "pretend" energy that winding myself up like the energizer bunny and caffeine provided. Yes – it’s challenging. I do have...

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Do Everything Differently. Re-wiring Your Emotional Response System.

Do Everything Differently. Re-wiring Your Emotional Response System.

I remember the very first time I visited a therapist. I went to find out what was wrong with me. I didn’t understand why my former husband was annoyed with me all the time, why I felt so on edge and why I felt unsafe. I also didn’t understand that he was an alcoholic. My mother treated me the same way as well. So I went with hope that I would discover what was wrong with me and why the two people in my life that I should have felt the safest with, I didn’t. What I learned was how to peel an onion. I’m sure I learned more than this, but what has stuck with me all these years is the analogy of emotions, feelings, habits and beliefs being buried under layers of onion skin. To heal emotionally, to change habits and beliefs, to break behavior patterns that do not support our well-being requires peeling the layers away. Have you ever peeled an onion that made you cry so much that you had to step away? Or if you’re a bit weird (also known as brilliant) like me you strap on swim goggles completely masking the effects of the onion fumes that cause tears. I strapped on my swim goggles and got busy. As long as I was busy I could keep the tears that were so close to the surface away. My busyness became the mask I wore to avoid the pain I didn’t want to feel. My busyness meant I was too busy to think about how miserable I felt and instead I focused my energy towards my multi-tasking skills, my coping skills and accomplishing as much as I could in a short amount of time while always appearing happy and positive. And then my world shattered. My dad, who so...

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Supporting Sisterhood – gather around!

Supporting Sisterhood – gather around!

Alright gals, when was the last time you said “hey, will you spot me?” You know how the guys do it at the gym - they want to lift more, push further so they ask someone to spot them. This was the premise behind a suggestion to form spotters groups by Barbara Stanny during her a Sacred Success retreat I attended a few years back. I’m one of those people that rarely asks for help. With a smile and outwardly optimistic demeanor, even those closest to me rarely know what internal struggles are going on.  I’m also very independent and certainly don’t need any support (hah). But  “spotter” is terminology that spoke to me. I liked the idea of gathering a group of women friends with an emphasis of taking our businesses and ourselves further than ever before. I didn’t just fall off the turnip truck.   Barbara is my friend and lives close by so she was my first Spotters group recruit.  Another friend from town was at the retreat and enthusiastically said yes.  There were two other women in business I knew, who I admired. I invited both them to my home to share my vision for a spotters group.  They both agreed and now I had my group of five. At our first meeting we discussed how we wanted our gatherings to go and decided on a time limit for each person to share. That idea quickly went out the window.  In the beginning, there was the occasional cancellation or scheduling of other commitments that caused someone to leave early.  But as we progressed, and the benefits of doing this type of work began to reveal itself, no one left early anymore!...

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