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Sometimes you just have to shut it all down…

Sometimes you just have to shut it all down…

#1: Thank you!! For being here. For joining my email list and for desiring to find a better way and overcome overwhelm. And for those of you who are my friends and former nutrition store customers…thank you for sticking with me – your words of encouragement mean the world to me! #2: Strange The online world and way of ‘doing’ business is just strange to me. I grew up in an era without cell phones, computers and OMG – I’m old enough to have had a rotary phone! But, if I’m really honest here, the online world isn’t as much strange as it is uncomfortable, because this is new to me. The solution to uncomfortable is to lean in. I’m leaning, because life on the other side of busy-ness and overwhelm is a life that is fulfilling, peaceful, inspiring and beautiful. I want this for all overwhelmed women! I’m committed and so ‘I lean’ :). #3: Truth.  The tools and methods I’ve created help tremendously and they are the reason that today my life has freedom, abundance and peace. But darn it – I have my days that I just struggle. In fact, after my launch into the world of online business, I crashed into the dark abyss big time. Something didn’t feel right – something was missing. #4: How can I see this differently?  I used to navigate life from my head. I would map, plan, set goals and stick to the path I set forth. Today I let my feelings lead me. If something feels off, even if on paper it all looks good, this is my signal to ask the question “how can I see this differently”. This question is the ‘pause’ button I used to step out of my head and right...

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Just Say ‘No’ Part 3: Personal Boundaries

Just Say ‘No’ Part 3: Personal Boundaries

Welcome to the third and final post of my three-part series about saying “no”. If you missed the first two, click here to read. Now it’s time to talk about boundaries, not the kind that define property lines, but the kind that keep our personal space safe. Personal boundaries are a way of communicating to others that you respect yourself. Without self-respect, people will unwittingly take advantage. You become the ‘yes’ girl. The one who gets things done. The one who will ‘take care of it’. The one to call when everyone else says ‘no’. An easy way to identify if your boundaries are healthy or not is your energy and frustration level. Check in with yourself. Do you have enough time for ‘you’? Do you cringe when certain people call because you know it means ‘work’ for you? For moms, are you showing up for your kid’s activities with enthusiasm or does it feel like just another thing to do? Are you putting everyone else’s needs before your own? Are you expecting someone else to fill your needs automatically? Do you feel guilty when you say ‘no’? Wikipedia describes boundaries like this: “Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits”. This is the cool part – you get to decide. It’s your body, your life, your choice and…it can be very challenging to put firm boundaries in place. I could not have built my boundaries without support. Last year I was dragging my feet making...

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Just Say ‘No’ Part 2: Your Core Values

Just Say ‘No’ Part 2: Your Core Values

This is the second in a three-part series about how to say “no”. If you missed last week’s post “Just Say No” click here to read it. Years ago, I was attending a retreat led by the wise Barbara Stanny, where she led us through something called the “Values Exercise”. In all honesty, my first attempt was a complete fail. I had so many things I was doing, wanted to do, felt responsible for and ‘had’ to keep on top of, that narrowing my list of ‘values’ down to the suggested five was met with, “are you kidding me”?! As I gained clarity into why I was saying “yes” to all the things I was doing and creating, identifying my core values became easier and easier. A couple of years ago, I updated my values list and I haven’t change them since – I love them! I read them often and they are my guiding light for when to say “yes” and when to say “no”. Here’s why. Knowing my core values helped me gain clarity on where I am willing to use my precious time and energy. Before I answer with a “yes”, I pause and ask myself; is this ‘yes’ in alignment with my core values? The bottom line is this – a lot of women (my former self included) are trying to ‘do’ everything - the result is feeling tired, down-right exhausted and depleted. Not fun or healthy for you or the people in your life. So how does this work? Below are my values and an example of how I use them to make decisions about how I use my time and energy: Unscheduled time: Allow time for randomness. Walks, quiet time, quiet mind, writing, creative, puttering. Forward movement: Something every day that...

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Just Say ‘No’ Part 1: Why Are You Saying ‘Yes’?

Just Say ‘No’ Part 1: Why Are You Saying ‘Yes’?

Just Say No. Easier said than done. ‘No’ is one of the most difficult and most important words to say. Saying no, is the first step to finding your yes. Without ‘no’, your plate fills up and overflows. Overwhelm takes over and what makes you happy, what lights you up, what feeds your soul, becomes lost in a sea of ‘doing’. Today, I say “yes” for different reasons but until a few years ago, my “yes” fed something that was missing in my life and my yessing led to my busy habits and overtime without even realizing it, I created a belief that saying “yes” and being busy made me a better person. I found that knowing the reason why I said yes, made saying “no” a little easier. Here are a few of the reasons why I used to say yes – do any of these sound familiar? I would say yes, because I didn’t want to miss out. I would say yes, because I wanted to fit in and be accepted. I would say yes, because I felt appreciated. I would say yes, because I wanted to be liked. I would say yes, because I felt obligated. I would say yes, because ‘helping’ is what you’re supposed to do. I would say yes, because being busy meant I was successful . I would say yes, because not ‘doing’ was lazy. I would say yes, because I didn’t want to disappoint the person asking. I would say yes, because being asked made me feel important. I would say yes, because I was afraid if I said no, they wouldn’t like me anymore. I would say yes, because I never felt like I was enough. I would say yes, because doing something for someone else (aka, helping/pleasing) fulfilled an unmet need....

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Change is in the air.

Change is in the air.

You never know where life is going to lead you. The past two years my life has gone in quite a different direction. I sold my nutrition store the end of 2014 with the intention of taking a few months off and launching an online nutrition based business. But that isn’t what happened. Instead life intervened and went in a direction I never could have imagined and eventually led to taking a year-long sabbatical (aka, ‘My Year of No’).  As I let go of all that was cluttering up my life, both emotionally and physically, what was working and what wasn’t working began to reveal itself. About 7 months into my sabbatical an idea bubbled to the surface. I began to wonder if other women struggled with over-doing, overwhelm and busyness? Surely, I couldn’t be the only one. The more I talked with friends and acquaintances the more I learned that feeling overwhelmed was more common than not. My idea began to take form. I used my sabbatical year to go deep with my own issues around over-doing. I learned to stop. I learned to not measure my day based on how much I had accomplished. I learned how often I was driven by my ‘shoulds’ instead of my ‘wants’. I then spent months interviewing women from Australia, to England and all over the United States and discovered that feeling stressed, anxious and overwhelmed was very common amongst women. I looked hard at my own life and mapped the course I used to overcome my busyness addiction. What I learned from my own experience, along with umpteen conversations and the interviews has led to creating a course and...

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