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Wired to Go and the One Question to Ask Yourself

Wired to Go and the One Question to Ask Yourself

It’s officially been six weeks since launching my online business and I tell you what, there are old habits, old ways of ‘being’ that are loudly knocking at my door. I imagine it’s what it’s like for someone who has been addicted to a substance – they’ve kicked the habit, but eventually, the craving creeps back in. My ‘substance’ was being busy and running on adrenaline. I like that feeling when my energy is pumping and I’m buzzing and doing and moving and grooving. But my body and my spirit did not. My mind was running amuck – like an all-night party before the hangover hits. I kept my party going by keeping my adrenaline pumping. Adrenaline, or epinephrine, is a stress hormone secreted from the adrenal glands on the kidneys. It plays a major role in preparing the body for a fight-or-flight reaction in threatening environments. Adrenaline rush is a sudden increase in the secretion of adrenaline from the adrenal glands. Adrenaline routes all energy to our muscles and our minds become sharper, this is a good in an emergency, but… We’ve become a society addicted to adrenaline. Stress creates adrenaline, adrenaline is addictive. It’s a vicious circle that has become a billion-dollar industry. [i]In 1991 there were 1,065 specialty coffee shops. In 2015, 31,490 - wow! And that is just in the United States. Caffeine boosts adrenaline which sparks the feel-good hormone endorphins. We feel energized and ready to take on the world…until we crash. When I purchased my fledgling nutrition store back in 2005, I hit the ground running. In one year my sales...

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Awakening to Your Own Way

I remember my Dad once telling me “I had no idea what to do with you from age twelve on”. The truth is, I had no idea what to do with me, from age twelve on. The process of growing up is confusing. I still find it confusing, because by my definition of growing up (the discovery of who you are - what makes us tick, what makes us tock) I’m not done yet – and never will be. How I showed up in the world in my 20’s, does not work in my 50’s and I’m certain that what works in my 50’s, won’t feel right in my 80’s. Growing up is constant and ongoing and sometimes I forget this. And when I forget, confusion settles in and I drift away from ‘me’. Figuring out what to do with ‘me’ led to reading copious amounts of self-help books, taking a variety of webinars, tele-seminars, going to retreats, workshops and never stopping long enough to allow the new ideas and habits to settle in. Sure, I gained knowledge and a tool box full of self-help fixes, but I still felt overwhelmed. I now know I was looking outside of myself for ‘the answer’, ‘the fix’, for something that made me feel that I was enough, that I was safe, that I was liked. I never allowed myself to deeply feel my frustration, my depletion and instead I pushed forward, using all my ‘tools’ to stay positive and keep a smile on my face, while maintaining my busy lifestyle. I pushed to the furthest corners of my psyche, any thought or feeling that was uncomfortable. I was pondering this whole ‘growing up’ thing and thought, “what if the reason my dad had no idea what to do with me, was because I was...

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7 Truths You Need to Know

7 Truths You Need to Know

"The more distant we are from the unique spark of life in our soul, the more devastating and isolating the growing darkness and uncertainty in the world will seem to be." ~Michael Meade Had I read Michael’s quote in my thirties, I’m not sure it would have had an impact. I was too busy climbing the corporate ladder, raising my son, navigating an unstable marriage, building a house, volunteering, hosting dinners and doing all the ‘things’ that people are supposed to do, while keeping a smile on my face and working very hard at maintaining the image of someone who had it all together (not that I even realized I was working hard at maintaining an image). My outer world fit well with how outer worlds where supposed to look and as such, I fooled myself into believing all was well. It wasn’t. For many the cure to our “inner growing darkness” is ‘over-ing’. Over-drinking, over-drugging, over-doing, over-pleasing, over-yesing, over-giving, over-eating, over-committing and even over-exercising. ‘Over-ing’ has become how we numb out, stuff our feelings down and attempt to keep one step ahead of unhappiness. In my late thirties, the clouds lowered around me and a deep depression settled in. I was lucky. I recognized that I was in trouble and got help. Help came in the form of an anti-depressant that lifted the clouds, removed my anxiety and gave me a false sense, that all was well. It wasn’t. On I marched, through a divorce, being a single mom, moving, buying a little home for my son and I, landing a great job, meeting a wonderful man, getting...

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Sometimes you just have to shut it all down…

Sometimes you just have to shut it all down…

#1: Thank you!! For being here. For joining my email list and for desiring to find a better way and overcome overwhelm. And for those of you who are my friends and former nutrition store customers…thank you for sticking with me – your words of encouragement mean the world to me! #2: Strange The online world and way of ‘doing’ business is just strange to me. I grew up in an era without cell phones, computers and OMG – I’m old enough to have had a rotary phone! But, if I’m really honest here, the online world isn’t as much strange as it is uncomfortable, because this is new to me. The solution to uncomfortable is to lean in. I’m leaning, because life on the other side of busy-ness and overwhelm is a life that is fulfilling, peaceful, inspiring and beautiful. I want this for all overwhelmed women! I’m committed and so ‘I lean’ :). #3: Truth.  The tools and methods I’ve created help tremendously and they are the reason that today my life has freedom, abundance and peace. But darn it – I have my days that I just struggle. In fact, after my launch into the world of online business, I crashed into the dark abyss big time. Something didn’t feel right – something was missing. #4: How can I see this differently?  I used to navigate life from my head. I would map, plan, set goals and stick to the path I set forth. Today I let my feelings lead me. If something feels off, even if on paper it all looks good, this is my signal to ask the question “how can I see this differently”. This question is the ‘pause’ button I used to step out of my head and right...

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Just Say ‘No’ Part 3: Personal Boundaries

Just Say ‘No’ Part 3: Personal Boundaries

Welcome to the third and final post of my three-part series about saying “no”. If you missed the first two, click here to read. Now it’s time to talk about boundaries, not the kind that define property lines, but the kind that keep our personal space safe. Personal boundaries are a way of communicating to others that you respect yourself. Without self-respect, people will unwittingly take advantage. You become the ‘yes’ girl. The one who gets things done. The one who will ‘take care of it’. The one to call when everyone else says ‘no’. An easy way to identify if your boundaries are healthy or not is your energy and frustration level. Check in with yourself. Do you have enough time for ‘you’? Do you cringe when certain people call because you know it means ‘work’ for you? For moms, are you showing up for your kid’s activities with enthusiasm or does it feel like just another thing to do? Are you putting everyone else’s needs before your own? Are you expecting someone else to fill your needs automatically? Do you feel guilty when you say ‘no’? Wikipedia describes boundaries like this: “Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits”. This is the cool part – you get to decide. It’s your body, your life, your choice and…it can be very challenging to put firm boundaries in place. I could not have built my boundaries without support. Last year I was dragging my feet making...

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