Yup. I get it. I had this syndrome something fierce.
I have no scientific data, only ‘Suzy’ data to back this up, but I’m hazarding a guess that ‘one more thing syndrome’ is connected to avoidance, control and programming – at least is was for me.
– Just one more thing before starting that project.
– Just one more thing before heading out the door to that thing you don’t want to go to.
– Just one more thing to calm your nerves.
– Don’t leave any loose ends because loose ends lead to unraveling.
– If I get it all done, if I’m on top of everything, if I do one more thing, I will feel less agitated and I will not fail.
– If I don’t do it now, I might forget (umm, write it down).
– Men have the gift of compartmentalizing. Women have the gift of connecting.
– So in regard to ‘one more thing’ syndrome, women are accessing all compartments of our brains at all times (men have unconnected boxes that open and close).
Having a brain that is so connected can be a bit crazy making as you well know and leads to jumping from one thing to the next thing, to that thing and then over to that other thing…oh wait, “just one more thing and I’m ready to go.”
We’ve programmed our brains to access and search for anything that needs to be done, should be completed, has to be finished, needs to be cared for. This way of thinking has become a habit.
The Cure for ‘One More Thing’ syndrome.
– First step is awareness. Done. I’ve just made you aware!
– Next is to catch yourself and then with conviction say out loud “I’M DONE (or an expletive that rocks your boat).”
Example – I was tidying up the kitchen which is usually a joint effort between my husband and I, but he was outside slinging a sledgehammer into our rock-hard ground. The kitchen is my least favorite place to be (right behind slinging a sledgehammer). I felt my mood sliding, glanced around the kitchen, which wasn’t perfectly tidied and said, “I’m done.”
Did you know it’s okay to not have everything in order?
Even my dog who spends her day curled up next to me, knows the words “I’m done.” She jumps up, I push my chair back, take a deep breath and close the door – figuratively, not literally.
Back to men having the gift of compartmentalizing…ladies take a cue – shut it down, step away, sit on your hands, take a deep breath and move on.
Because, if you don’t, there will always be “one more thing.” Am I right?
If you haven’t watched the 5-minute video, The Tail of Two Brains, by Mike Gungor, you’ve got to! Both illuminating and over-the-top hilarious! Click here to view.
Here’s to doing ‘one less thing’!
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When I owned my nutrition store, getting out of town always sent me straight into overwhelm. So, I came up with simple questions to make departing easier, that I thought you might find helpful as well…
~What do I really need NOT to be doing right now?
~What can I let go of?
~What can I simplify?
This week my husband and I are on an annual glamping (camping in comfort) trip to beautiful Cannon Beach Oregon with friends, dogs, kids and loads of sand and unlike years gone past, departure was so much easier than those days when I thought EVERYTHING had to be done before leaving.
My way of simplifying is to share the poem below, that so powerfully describes Sacred Selfishness™, written by Shiloh Sophia the founder of Intentional Creativity®. It’s powerful!
Here we are – it’s summer and suddenly our ‘to do’ lists have grown. Not only are there indoor responsibilities, if you have a home with a yard – there are outdoor tasks as well. In my town, summer is festival season, concerts and BBQ’s. My husband and I love camping, hiking, he loves fly fishing and I love my walks and hikes with girlfriends – so many choices for fun!
You would think we would all feel energized, but often this is not the case. We forget the magic rule of sustainable energy…Three + the essentials.
I remember the first time I heard the concept of course correcting. I was in my early twenties attending my first personal development deep-dive seminar, The Pursuit of Excellence. The facilitator talked about how an airplane does not fly a straight course and is constantly course correcting to arrive at the intended destination.
Little did I know, that my plane would veer way off course over and over and sometimes it was years before I woke up and realized, this was not my intended direction or I’d arrive and realize that the destination wasn’t for me after all.
Life has many twists and turns. Curve balls happen. Computers crash. Squirrel’s eat wiring. Tires go flat. Keys get lost and well thought out plans end up in left field before you even arrive at the office.
Well let me tell you, I used to get so frustrated when my carefully plotted course got blown to smithereens. My anxiety would escalate, I’d fall head first into ‘woe is me’ and turn a bad hour into a bad day. I’d pop my Taurus horns out, put my nose to the grind stone and go into ‘I can handle this mode’ while riding in a plane that was nose diving towards earth.
Have you ever set out to work on a project that sends your energy (and mood) spiraling down?
That’s what happened to me this morning when I sat down, with topic in hand, to write my Tuesday blog. I found myself continually distracted by the sunny scene outside (we’ve had days of rain), by shiny objects, by my growling tummy, etc…
Here’s what I did (you can do this too):
#1: Reminded myself (again) to not leave things to the last minute.
#2: Got up and moved – air jump roped one hundred times (takes 1 minute & always makes me smile).
#3: Asked myself, what am I excited about, enthused about and happy about?
#4: And…what is it I really want to write about?
Which led to this –