You want to change careers, shift your focus, start your own business, switch things up, scale back, slow down a bit, do something different.
The idea of going at your current pace for another five or ten years (even if you love it) fills you with a sense of dread. And on top of it all, years of ‘busy’ have left you asking yourself “what is it that lights my fire?”
First things first…
#1: Wherever you go, there you are. Your beliefs, thought patterns, habits and behaviors will go with you into your next career creation, next relationship and even the next town. You can’t escape you. So unless the situation you are in is detrimental to your health, hang on…don’t jump ship yet, there are lessons to be learned and there’s a house to tidy up – the house being your emotional landscape.
#2: Take notice of what pushes your buttons, what triggers you, what overwhelms you, what drags you down. Your current situation can be ripe with opportunities to rewire reactive habits. This is a great time to ask for help – hire a therapist, career coach or executive business coach.
#3: You’re busy, but…
A business coach told a friend of mine, “you should only be doing, what only you can do.” Hmm. How are you at asking for what you want, delegating, letting go, not being in control all the time, loosening your grip?
#4: Don’t let the turkeys get you down.
If you want to do something really freeing and liberating, learn how to let the turkeys flutter about without bothering you at all. In other words, don’t let people get under your skin and don’t take things personally. The question to ask? How can I see this differently? The book to read ‘The Dark Side of the Light Chasers’ by Debbie Ford.
#5: Stay out of the what and how.
We humans tend to think we must have it all figured out. It just doesn’t work that way. So, here’s a tip that has helped me tremendously (in addition to tossing my heavily used map out the window) – begin with how you want to feel, not with what you want to do. Trust.
#6: What do you loath, like, love?
Begin a career/life mindfulness practice. Keep a pad on your desk (or use your phone’s note pad) and jot down what you don’t like, what you do like and what you love – the parts of your job that light your fire. What about volunteer outreach you’re involved in – what do you loath, like, love?
#7: What’s your rhythm?
When I sold my nutrition store and stepped out of 35 years of working 8 to 5, Monday through Friday, I had no idea what my personal rhythm was. Today I know that what works best for me is to be ‘on’ moving and grooving and then to step back and rest and rejuvenate. For others, day to day structure is important. What works best for you?
#8: Begin an adventure – without leaving home.
Every morning, before heading out for the day ahead, take a moment to set your intention to discover treasure. The treasure of what makes you tick, what lights your fire, what your zone of genius is and what pearls are needing to be polished.
#9: Do you know how to stop?
I’m not talking about vacation, but every single day. Are you able to carve out time for yourself? Because let me tell you, I couldn’t. Every moment was full of doing something. When I stopped, I felt agitated. When I walked, I walked fast and with purpose. Did you know that small beautiful things grow on the forest floor? I didn’t. I was too busy looking straight ahead walking briskly toward my goal, always mindful of the time and making sure I squeezed in just one more thing.
#10 Launch a thought.
Crazy, but it works. It was 2002, my 13th year working in print media. I was ready for something else and I was clear on two things. #1. It had to be something that helped people. #2. It couldn’t be retail. I launched my thought. Two years later, I became the owner of a nutrition store that helped so many people. I know, I know – it was retail, which leads me to…
#11: You don’t always get what you ask for, but you always get what you need.
I had more lessons to learn. I had yet to learn what I’ve shared here, so the universe compromised – we’ll give you a little, plus the perfect situation for you to learn what you need to learn and then and only then, will you arrive at what you want.
And it goes without saying, that before you take your next step – embrace Sacred Selfishness™. Learn this practice of prioritizing self, unwind from busyness and commit to clearing out what clutters your emotional landscape because, there is no stopping a woman devoted to her own well-being and powered by a well-nourished soul!