Self-care is a word we hear often these days. But it’s mostly associated with what I call outer-world experiences: massages, facials, fitness, soaking– all wonderful and important.  Soul-care is how you take care of your inner-world experience: your emotions, how you feel – your heart, your mind, your soul.

Soul-care is not complicated. It can be as simple as a shift in perspective and doesn’t require ‘doing’ anything.

Here’s a great example of both self-care and soul-care: A friend was on vacation with her self-centered boyfriend. She’d had enough! She broke it off with him and was going to fly home. But, she was on a beautiful tropical island and didn’t really want to leave. So instead of wallowing in sadness, she made the choice to treat herself like a queen.

This is what she did…

She checked herself into a resort hotel for four days. She indulged with self-care—facials and massages, but what made her vacation great, wasn’t the stuff she was doing, it was the words she was using…

Every morning she woke up and said to herself “hey sweetheart, what do you want to do today?”

Isn’t this brilliant? This simple shift of asking herself what she wanted to do (unlike her now ex-boyfriend), turned a bad experience into in her words, ”the best vacation ever!”

Treating yourself like a Queen, doesn’t mean trying to fit one more thing into your life. It is as simple as saying to yourself – hey sweetheart, what do you want to do today?

Dedicating this one to the queen in all of us!

What’s your shift in perspective? Comment below.

xo  ~Suzy

PS You can also ask “hey sweetheart, how do you want to feel today?”