For women, we are led to believe we should give more, please more, do more for others, accomplish more, juggle more and this will lead to ‘more’.
For entrepreneurs, we are led to think you need more likes, more followers, more email list subscribers, more blogs, more content, more tech, more knowledge and this will lead to ‘more’.
For all of us, we are led to believe that more stuff, more clothes, more friends, more likes, more invitations, more opportunities, more books, more workshops, more travel, more kale, more exercise, will lead to ‘more’.
But what about quality?
Quality of life. Quality of friendships. Quality of experiences. Quality of work.
Here a Seven signs that Quantity has been placed before Quality.
#1: No surprise here – you feel overwhelmed.
#2: You feel you’re not enough and that you are not doing enough.
#3: There’s a level of boredom (a side effect of moredom) with what you are doing.
#4: You cruise social media often…or flip through catalogs dreaming of ‘more’.
#5: You want to go shopping…again.
#6: You’re reading copious amounts of personal growth books, watching TedTalks and listening to podcasts, searching for ‘more’.
#7: You work hard, all the time and feel agitated when you are not doing more.
My website tagline even sports the word ‘more’ – “Do Less and Live More”, which means do less of what is not feeding your soul and more of what does.
It’s the quality of your ‘more’ verses the quantity of your ‘more’.
Four ideas to prioritize Quality before Quantity.
#1: Ask yourself questions:
What makes you smile? What energizes you? What drains you? Whose company do you enjoy? Whose company leaves you feeling drained? What gives you pleasure – what doesn’t?
Clean up, purge, let go.
#2: Log off. Unfriend. Unfollow.
Social Media is not going away. You have a choice. Log off or do it differently. Who of your social media ‘friends’ would you want in your living room or want to cultivate a business relationship with? Unfriend, unfollow, let go and never accept a friend request without first looking at that persons news feed because:
A) They could be a hacker B) You may have nothing in common
Monitor your emotions while cruising social media. Are you feeling uplifted, inspired – or are you feeling dragged down or falling into self-comparison? If it’s the latter, log off immediately and remember to be ever-so-disciplined with how much time you allot to social media.
Quality verses quantity.
#3: What need is being fulfilled by ‘moredom’?
Is it a need to feel appreciated, liked, loved, respected, secure, safe, attractive, important or to fit in? What is driving your ‘more’ – is it FOMO – Fear of Missing Out?
#4: Make room for what matters most.
Think about your favorite treat – how does it make you feel as you chew, taste and experience the flavor, texture and smells? Mmm…Now think about all the ‘more’ in your life – is your mouth watering or do you want to stick your finger down your throat?
Put on your plate what you really love – what’s juicy, yummy and pleasurable.
Now, having said this, there are things we need to do that may not be pleasurable, but are essential to our well-being, so…
#5: Follow the 80/20 rule.
Mark Manson describes this best in his blog ‘How to 80/20 your life’.
80% of your time, 80% of your stuff, 80% of your friends, 80% of your clothes, 80% of your doing…brings fulfillment, pleasure and quality to your life.
The more quality you have in your life the easier the other 20% becomes – like scrubbing toilets or an annoying co-worker, because when the majority of your ‘more’ feeds your soul, the rest becomes much easier to roll with.
And here’s a little secret…letting go of moredom, leads to freedom and you do this by saying “NO” more often.
If you enjoyed this blog, please share and I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below – what is one thing you could do differently to improve the quality of what you are doing?